After more than a decade of depression, anxiety & discontent, I finally chose happy.

Here's where you can read about my journey, and all the stuff I've learned about happiness along the way.

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CocoWhip by So Delicious is vegan Cool Whip, but better.

Cool Whip is chemical soup. I KNOW, I KNOW, it’s delicious, and it stings your innocent ears to hear that it’s practically plastic. Its assortment of unrecognizable ingredients include things like polysorbate 60 and sorbitan monostearate (appetizing, right?) — not to mention skimmed milk and light cream, which put it on the no-fly list for vegan eaters. Unfortunately (UNTIL NOW), there was no acceptable substitute. Vegans were S.O.L. when it came to creamy, fluffy whipped toppers for hot chocolates and pineapple surprises. The one and only brand of vegan whipped cream wasn’t exactly user-friendly (that canister though!) But thanks to So Delicious, […]

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Nobody said happiness was easy.

Easy = boring (which explains the enduring appeal of that whole playing-hard-to-get thing). Humans rarely appreciate what’s easily won. It’s why no one cherishes a generic, catch-all achievement award – only a hard-earned trophy makes it to the spot of honor. Let’s consider happiness. Nobody said the pursuit of it was smooth sailing – TJ just said we had a right to try and catch it. For the most part, happiness isn’t easy. Changing the way our brain works (which, essentially, is how happiness happens) is incredibly challenging. IMO, it’s the hardest thing we can ever do. It’s like de-rusting the Tin Man with spit instead […]

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Five things to remember when you’re battling depression.

Last week, I did an interview with Colombia’s La Fm – RCN Radio (and no I don’t speak Spanish, which, after five years of living in Miami, is pretty pathetic). In it, they asked me for the top five things I’ve learned in my fight against depression. You can listen to the whole interview here (don’t worry — it’s only 10 minutes, too short for me to bore you to death), but in addition, I thought I’d write y’all a list. Because I love you. So, here are five things to remember when you’re battling depression: 1. You are not alone. YOU ARE NOT […]

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$75,000 is the price of happiness.

Money can’t buy happiness. This, we know. We know because of the oodles of self-destructive celebrities, the narcissistic millionaire misers, the lottery winners who’ve gone out in a blaze of glory a la Young Guns II. Time and time again, we’ve seen that wealth and fame and possessions don’t guarantee anything more than a black Amex and a hefty tax bill. Simultaneously, of course, we’ve been brainwashed by consumerism since we were impressionable youngsters — led to believe that a Lexus with a big red bow, a handsome husband or a sprawling house in the suburbs are all we need to be happy. Intellectually we know better, […]

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10 quotes about autumn that are sure to make you happy.

Fall has (unofficially) arrived. Which means pumpkin spice lattes and leaf peeping; tall boots and rainbow-hued scarves; apple cider doughnuts and hayrides — all the trappings of the best season ever. There’s nothing like autumnal adventures. Even here in South Florida we play pretend with pop-up pumpkin patches and iced versions of the #PSL. It’s 90 degrees outside and 100% humidity, but the spirit of fall has arrived anyway. And there’s nothing like it. So enjoy these 10 quotes about autumn and bask in the cool, crisp air (if you’re lucky, that is). “I’m so glad I live in a world where there are […]

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In honor of 9/11, let love be our legacy.

It’s been 13 years — 156 months — 4,680 days since that day. THE day. I feel like the last 13 years has blown by in a whirlwind of Facebook posts and Starbucks soy lattes; hours and moments whizzing by at the speed of the internet. 13 YEARS. But I digress. Now is not the time for existentialist woes. Despite the growing time gap, I see that morning as clearly as my computer screen. It sits, perfectly preserved behind my eyelids. I can see the harried reporters trying to keep their composure; I can feel the eerie quiet that fell in public places; I […]

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You need other people to be happy.

I’ve spent a lot of time alone. Oodles of time. Do the math and it would probably add up to a shockingly high percentage of my years on this planet. As an only child, flying solo always been my M.O. I’m fiercely independent and admittedly introverted. And truth be told, the introspective time investment has paid off. It’s allowed me a keen self-awareness, which, in turn has helped me grow, evolve and change. THANK GOD. But hermits aren’t happy. We need people. I need people. Despite my affinity for aloneness, my friends have always been my world — my soulmates, my confidantes. Without them, I wouldn’t […]

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Science of Happiness course kicks off today.

You can never know too much about happiness. Seriously. It’s what every human (and animal) wants, the driving force behind all of our behavior — the end goal of our existence. Hence this blog. But aside from your daily readings of my take on this particular subject, there are other awesome ways to up your happiness quotient. One of these is UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center’s Science of Happiness course. It’s free, it’s offered via edX, and it’s amazing (trust me on this, I interviewed the professor). And it starts today. The eight-week positive psychology course will be teaching all sorts of […]

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How to stay positive around negative people.

Like yawns and chicken pox, emotions are pretty contagious. Optimism and pessimism, primarily. The good vibes and the bad vibes tend to rub off. There’s science behind this, and even official terminology: emotional contagion. When you’re working to adopt a more positive attitude towards life, negative people can feel like an albatross around your neck. And unfortunately, not everyone can be avoided. So while you can’t walk away from all the Negative Nancys in your life, there are ways to deal with their mood-killing pessimism without falling prey to it yourself. So, here are some tips on how to stay […]

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10 habits for a happier life.

For some of us (arguably, a lot of us), happiness hasn’t come naturally. Whether we’ve struggled with depression, addiction issues or a lifelong bout of low-grade melancholia, daily life may feel more like a ride on the Titanic than a pleasure cruise. But that’s okay. Some roads are rockier than others — some journeys, longer. But even if it doesn’t come easily, happiness is worth the struggle. It’s worth striving, working, fighting to feel better. Click to read the rest on the Huffington Post.